That is a really different word, because value is something assigned by others. We assign value to other things, we don't control the value of our own actions or behaviors. How well you do your Job isn't up to you, and the level of influence you have on your kids isn't you decision--the value of this is co-constructed by those around us.
So what is my value? Is it based off my friends who care about me endlessly, but sometimes don't get me? Is it based off my family, who love me endlessly but don't know the real me? Is it the person I want to be friends with but writes me off for the way I look? How about the stranger who I hardly know but is effortlessly kind to me?
All of these people make me feel a certain way, some of them make me feel better than others but all of them make me feel. Lately I have found that a lot of people are making me feel as if I exist in a manner with little value. Friends who don't understand what true support it, family that isn't on my side, and others that see me as nothing but a bother. As far as I am concerned, based on this information, I have little value.
Wrong. All of it. The idea that others assign value. The way people make me or others feel. All of this is wrong.
It is all up to me. I am in charge of how I feel. I give myself self worth. So what if you were shot down by the one you like or a potential friend judges your appearance and writes you off. That is not what you defines who you are. Missed opportunities and negative interactions having nothing to do with your value. There are millions of people on this planet, and I am not friends with nearly all of them. The tiny amount that I am friends with, they have millions of actions and I am not aware of most of them so I need to take what I know is true, good and honest and use that. Use it to make meaning for myself. Meaning of our friendship. Meaning of my life.
Well, I can't say I am sure that this made sense. As I wrote and re-wrote this several times, but I know that I said what I wanted to say and that is all I need. Just remember, people are more than a nice jaw line, a small waist and nice clothes. If you can't see past that and give value to yourself and others...you are doing it wrong.
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